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What Should We Tell the Children?

  • Writer: Alan Jacobs
    Alan Jacobs
  • Aug 17, 2016
  • 1 min read

One of the most typical questions asked of me by parents who are beginning the divorce process is, “What should we tell the children and how should we tell them?” Most parents, understandably, feel awful in having to tell their children about their pending divorce and how all their lives are going to be permanently changed. Such a task can generate tremendous pangs of guilt, sadness, and anger. Moreover, parents want to protect their children from the emotional pain of divorce, and want to protect their children from viewing themselves as the cause of the divorce.

In this blog posting, Don Saposnek writes that if parents work together in their divorce, even if they weren’t able to work together in their marriage, the children will benefit. Even if the first wish of children of divorce (i.e. that Mom and Dad will get back together) can’t come true, their second wish (i.e. that Mom and Dad will cooperate with each other and not fight) can come true. That is up to you.

 
 
 

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