The antagonistic nature of litigation often results in otherwise cooperative people thinking that their spouse is out to get them, even though they’re not. It creates a win or lose mentality that convinces people they can’t “win” unless their spouse “loses”, and it sets up parents to struggle with co-parenting for the rest of their lives. Only the healthiest of individuals can survive the process with less than utter hostility toward their prior mate.
In this excellent blog posting, Nancy Hetrick the owner of Smarter Divorce Solutions, LLC, writes about how, for the majority of couples, the courtroom is not the best option for your divorce.