Our expectations of holidays change when families are navigating through divorce. Both parents and children are grieving. And, while letting go of the past can be painful, it’s possible to create new traditions to transform the next chapter.
In this excellent article, Judith Hatch Orme writes that the most important factor for the children in the equation is the co-parenting relationship. Communication between parents is the biggest determinant of how the holidays will play out.
"The most important consideration is the best interests of the children. This time of year can resonate with loss. Consider navigating through the holidays with the children as the first priority. By setting realistic expectations, with the children’s needs in mind, ask for each child’s input, connect with family and friends, and take special care of each family member (emotionally and physically), ensuring the holidays are a time of joy."