As Susan Ingram writes in this excellent blog posting, when I first meet with my mediation clients I explain that, through the course of our sessions, they will be making decisions concerning many important issues.
While the discussions I lead my couples through in mediation need to be structured, they also need to allow for “fluid” thinking. By that, I mean the type of thinking that allows for the interplay between the various decisions that must be made.
It really is similar to putting together the pieces of a puzzle. The puzzle is done when all of the pieces have been properly fit together. And it’s only at that point that the task is completed and it’s time to move on.