Why not simply let the courts decide?
Divorce mediation is voluntary; you can go to the courtroom at any point. There, however, one party usually leaves satisfied while the other may be in for a terrible disappointment. The judge decides the case and, more than likely, whether you win or lose, you paid a steep price to find out. In mediation you can control your own destiny.
Most individuals do not have the specific knowledge necessary for making fully informed decisions about the financial and legal aspects of divorce. The danger in drafting your own divorce agreement is that, unless you happen to be familiar with the rules and regulations of the court, the judge will almost certainly reject the document. I will provide you with the information that is required to reach the best settlement for your particular situation. I will have your Separation Agreement drawn up so that it is acceptable to the court and insures that your interests and goals are reflected in your settlement..
Further, even in the best of circumstances, the end of a significant relationship involves such intense emotions that it is difficult for two people to resolve issues on their own. I allow each person to have their feelings, without those feelings spilling over and jeopardizing your ability to reach fair agreements.
The reality of a divorce court trial is that most litigants walk out of the courtroom feeling as if they have just been run over by a truck. The winner often finds his or her enthusiasm dampened by the warning they hear from their lawyer to prepare for the next legal round, when their soon-to-be-ex-spouse will appeal the judge’s decision. An appeal means another trial, more money, and, of course, the emotional trauma that seems to have no end.
In a mediated divorce you and your spouse make the final decisions and have the security of a professional who will look out for your best interests.