In this excellent blog posting, Rachel Alexander writes of a recent divorce negotiation, in which a father raised several concerns about entering into a custody and parenting agreement for their nine-year-old son. His concerns are both legitimate and pertinent to most divorcing couples who are also parents of young children. Here are two of his concerns with Rachel's responses.

There are many things no one tells you about divorce. This article by Rachel Alexander — part IV of her four-part series  — concerns itself with another critical, often overlooked issue in the divorce process: the establishment of a supportive network. It is best addressed early and often. In the early days of the pandemic, many of us unwittingly revisited the fear of scarce resources and need for basic items like Clorox and paper goods. There was an urgency, clarity and even

There are many things no one tells you about divorce. This article by Rachel Alexander — part III of her article in four parts - concerns itself with another critical, often overlooked, issue in the divorce process. We hope this helps in adjusting expectations and preparing you to best manage this largely unmanageable time. III. Attorneys Attorneys have a crucial role in the divorce process and it is important to be supported by the appropriate level of expertise; however, pe

There are many things no one tells you about divorce. This article by Rachel Alexander - part II of her article in four parts - concerns itself with another major, often overlooked, issue in the divorce process. We hope this helps in adjusting expectations and preparing so you can best manage through this largely unmanageable time. II. Status quo and Shifting Ground Often folks must carry on with daily life as if nothing has changed, when everything is, in fact, changing. Thi

There are many things that no one tells you about divorce. This article by Rachel Alexander – an article in four acts – concerns itself with four major, often overlooked problems with the divorce process. Bringing attention to them can help you prepare and adjust your expectations accordingly. I. Delays – a multifactorial problem In the divorce process, hurry up, rev up, and then wait. Divorce, especially if you are litigating, is replete with delays. You are expecting someth

In this excellent article from the New York Times, Cathi Hanauer writes of her and her husband's experience ending their three decade marriage. "So overall, my experience has cemented my view that when wedlock no longer feels right or healthy later in life — and if, like us, you’re fortunate enough to have careers, adult kids and a willingness to do the work of a good split (not unlike being in a good marriage!) — then unlocking, becoming separate again, can be a fine option.

There are many things that no one tells you about divorce. This article by Rachel Alexandar – an article in four acts – concerns itself...

There are many things that no one tells you about divorce. This article by Rachel Alexandar – an article in four acts – concerns itself...

There are many things that no one tells you about divorce. This article by Rachel Alexandar – an article in four acts – concerns itself...

There are many things that no one tells you about divorce. This article by Rachel Alexandar – an article in four acts – concerns itself...

How to avoid triggering a costly tax bill, tips on dividing financial assets, filing for Social Security, and whether to sell or keep the...

What happens when the father is the stay-at-home spouse and the mother is the primary earner? Can we simply swap out the term husband for...

As the number of couples who split after the age of 50 rises, more Americans are looking at a retirement that is drastically different...

In divorce mediation, there are some things that must never be cloaked in mystery or veiled by the fog of uncertainty. Certain matters...

The same unhappy event in itself is not necessarily destined to morph into trauma. Take this example: a child is ridiculed by his...

In divorcing situations, some pain may be inevitable, but trauma is preventable! In a divorce, parents lose their tempers, over-share...

In Part I of this article Rachel Alexander examines the complex situation of shared custody with an ex-spouse you don’t trust. Here, in...

Co-parenting without mutual trust is tough, but not uncommon. In this excellent blog posting, Rachel Alexander discusses the distrust...

Divorce presents many challenges. One of them is whether and when to begin a new relationship at the same time you are ending another....

In this excellent article from the New York Times, Jancee Dunn offers ideas to help a loved one who is going through a divorce. Make...