While co-parenting is a great opportunity for children to spend time with both parents – to feel it’s okay to be loved by both of their parents – there are some circumstances that make it problematic. For instance, it can be a challenge if you have a high-conflict ex who thrives on conflict, has a difficult personality, or a personality disorder.
In this excellent blog posting Terry Gaspard offers 7 tips for co-parenting with a challenging or high-conflict ex:
Do set a positive example for your child.
Do keep your child’s best interests in mind.
Do remember the only thing you can control: your behavior!
Do limit contact and set boundaries with your ex.
Do be careful not to admit wrongdoing, especially in writing, since this might be used against you.
Do make a parenting plan a top priority.
Do seek support from counselors, mediators, or other helping professionals.