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Blame – Divorce’s Unfriendly Bedfellow Uncovered

  • Writer: Alan Jacobs
    Alan Jacobs
  • Aug 4
  • 1 min read

Blame. While I steer well clear of the word and concept in mediation, I am continually pulled towards it in life.


There is a lot wrong with blame. It usually lacks compassion, is rich in judgment, and is packed with hostility and animosity. Yet blame we do. So what is the purpose of blame?


In this excellent blog article, Rachel Alexander offers three possibilities.


  •  Order and Safety

  • Realigning with the Other and Closing a Distance

  • Reform Reality to Meet Expectations and Values

 
 
 

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