Four Things No One Tells You About Divorce (and What You Need to Know Now) Part 2

There are many things no one tells you about divorce. This article by Rachel Alexander - part II of her article in four parts - concerns itself with another major, often overlooked, issue in the divorce process. We hope this helps in adjusting expectations and preparing so you can best manage through this largely unmanageable time.

II. Status quo and Shifting Ground

Often folks must carry on with daily life as if nothing has changed, when everything is, in fact, changing. This can include living under the same roof as your to-be ex-spouse and carrying on with many activities as a [not yet redefined] family. This in-between place is usually the period after you have decided to divorce, however, you are still continuing with the same financial and logistical status quo. Divorcing people still have to get to work, meet deadlines, pick up dry cleaning, parent kids, cook dinner, and service their cars — without having the necessary, new structure in place. Without the benefit of the relief that comes from implementing helpful changes (such as time apart, separate residences), but with the added stress of addressing the conflict and working towards a resolution.