Your life was building with a marriage, career and growing family, but now it’s not. Divorce isn’t merely a thought. It’s what’s happening. You’re sad, angry, and resentful, but you don’t want to create more destruction before it officially ends. If you want to end your marriage amicably and you and your soon-to-be ex are on good terms, divorce mediation is often the best path forward.
Divorce mediation is a process where two parties work together, with the help of a neutral mediator, to settle the terms of their divorce outside of court. The goal of mediation is for a couple to work through their situation in an efficient, customized, and cost-effective manner. Mediation allows you and your ex to separate your lives, divide finances, and figure out custody on your terms. It’s also the course through which you create a binding agreement that needs to be unambiguous, formatted correctly, and filed, signed and approved by the appropriate local court. It’s not necessarily a DIY project, but it can be less antagonistic and bitter since no one gets deemed a winner and loser.
But that endpoint doesn’t happen by accident. You need to prepare, accept ideas, and be mindful in order to stay focused on where you eventually want to be rather than get stuck on where you are right now.
How do you do that? In this excellent blog posting, Steve Calechman offers six divorce mediation tips can help.