Status quo and Shifting Ground

There are many things that no one tells you about divorce. This article by Rachel Alexandar – an article in four acts – concerns itself with four major, often overlooked problems with the divorce process. Bringing attention to them can help you prepare and adjust your expectations accordingly.

II. Delays – a multifactorial problem

Often folks must carry on with daily life as if nothing has changed, when everything is, in fact, changing. This can include living under the same roof as your to-be ex-spouse and carrying on with many activities as a [not yet redefined] family. This in-between place is usually the period after you have decided to divorce, however, you are still continuing with the same financial and logistical status quo. Divorcing people still have to get to work, meet deadlines, pick up dry cleaning, parent kids, cook dinner, and service their cars — without having the necessary, new structure in place. Without the benefit of the relief that comes from implementing helpful changes (such as time apart, separate residences), but with the added stress of addressing the conflict and working towards a resolution.

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