Choosing a divorce mediator is the first agreement divorcing spouses make together at the beginning of the divorce mediation process. It will be one of the most important decisions spouses reach during their divorce.
In divorce mediation, you will discuss issues that are personal, sensitive, and emotional. There will be times when you cover financial and legal issues. There will be times you communicate about important family issues. All the while, the divorce mediator you choose will guide you along the way.
In this excellent blog posting, Michael Aurit writes about five essential mediator qualities that spouses should consider before choosing a divorce mediator.
TRUST - The most important consideration in choosing a family mediator is that you trust him or her to guide you through the process. Your mediator should be someone you feel comfortable with as a person and as a professional.
PRACTICE AREA THAT IS ONLY FAMILY MEDIATION - Verify that the mediator’s practice area is dedicated to divorce and family mediation.
EDUCATION IN DISPUTE RESOLUTION AND MEDIATION - Ensure that your mediator has a substantial education in dispute resolution and continuing mediation training.
INVOLVED IN THE MEDIATION PROFESSION - Does your mediator write a regular blog? Involvement in local and national organizations and associations is another indication that the mediator is invested in being at the top of their game.
FLAT FEES OR HOURLY BILLING - The cost of the mediation process is always an important consideration. An important cost questions relate to the predictability of your mediator’s fees. It is very important that you trust he or she will be accurate and fair with their time.
If you or someone you know could benefit from assistance in decision making during a divorce, contact Falmouth Mediation at 508-566-4159 for a free, no-obligation, private, confidential consultation. We will be happy to discuss the key details of your situation, address any concerns, and help you decide if divorce mediation would be beneficial.