Your marriage is in question and you're facing a real dilemma. You may be the one who is deciding should you stay or should you go. Or you may be the one who has just heard that your spouse wants a divorce.
In this blog posting, Bruce Derman and Wendy Gregson write that most couples who begin a divorce are unprepared and are often not even on the same page when they begin. It is this lack of preparedness and readiness for a divorce that either causes marriages to end prematurely or divorces to deteriorate into competitive contests. Once a couple is prepared and ready, they will sooner be able to begin their divorce by both being on the same page and this will eliminate most of the emotional and financial struggles that cause divorces to become adversarial and ruthless.
For divorce to be a collaborative and respectful process, the couple must be prepared and ready to separate their lives on all levels; legally, practically and emotionally.