In this excellent blog posting, Joan B. Kelly offers ten ways to protect your children from the fallout of a high conflict break-up.
Talk to your children about your separation.
Be discreet.
Act like grown-ups. Keep your conflict away from the kids.
Dad, stay in the picture.
Mom, deal with anger appropriately.
Be a good parent.
Manage your own mental health.
Keep the people your children care about in their lives.
Be thoughtful about your future love life.
Pay your child support.