• Alan Jacobs

20 Things to Know About Divorce Mediation


In this excellent blog posting, Dana Westreich Hirt lists twenty things that people going through a divorce - and the many people who know them - might find helpful about divorce mediation:

  1. Divorce is complicated.

  2. Fighting makes everything worse.

  3. Make sure your mediator is neutral.

  4. Informed decision-making is key.

  5. Mediators are trained to reflect your “interests”, not your rights.

  6. Something can be inequitable, but still be legal.

  7. Lawyers get a bad rap.

  8. Mediation is a delicate balance.

  9. Enough with the venting.

  10. One partner is always further along than the other.

  11. Emotional uncoupling is a process.

  12. Mediators are people, too.

  13. It’s not the mediator’s job to solve your problems.

  14. Mediators are bound by ethics of confidentiality.

  15. Co-parenting is not the same as parallel parenting.

  16. “Be brief; be informative; be friendly; be firm.”

  17. Be as positive as possible.

  18. Listen to understand, not to react.

  19. Focus forward.

  20. No parenting agreement is ideal.

#Divorce #ChildCustody #Parenting #ChildrenandDivorce #BenefitsofMediation

4 views

Recent Posts

See All

When Co-Parents Clash in a Pandemic

Of course, the coronavirus pandemic has presented some challenges you don’t typically see with other states of emergency. Challenges even the most prescient parenting plan may not have accounted for.

52 Haynes Avenue, Falmouth, MA 02540      508-566-4159

 

© by Alan Jacobs  Photography © Paul W. Bailey