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  • Writer's pictureAlan Jacobs

Giving Your Children the Gift of Peace for the Holidays

The holidays are stressful for families. For families that have the additional challenge of recent divorce or separation, the first holiday season can be very difficult to navigate—there can, and probably will be, significant differences from what the children, and their parents, are used to (especially if the holidays are not celebrated together).

In this blog posting, Jeffrey Zimmerman writes that it will help to approach the holidays from your role as parents (rather than as former spouses) and explore the following question: “How can we truly give our children peace and love for the holidays?”

Part of ensuring that children experience ease around the holidays is to provide information and structure as opposed to a no-win situation that results from asking them to choose between their parents. By structuring the holidays the child can feel that there is not uncertainty and hostility.

In addition to scheduling, parents can also coordinate gift giving by communicating with one another in advance, or jointly giving larger presents. This type of coordination communicates cooperation, gratitude, and peace to the children—rather than conflict.

Giving peace also means not being in conflict with each other about how the holidays will be celebrated. Children often know when their parents are at odds. They feel the tension and see the look on your face when there is any conflict—and they often feel that they are at the center of it.

Holidays can become hostile and conflictual unless parents consciously and deliberately make choices that result in peaceful and loving interactions and experiences.

#Divorce #ChildrenandDivorce #ChildCustody #Parenting

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